As a friend, you may be in the best position to see when a friend might need help and help them get it. You may see signs yourself, hear about them secondhand, or see something concerning online on social media. Never ignore these signs. Never agree to keep this secret for a friend. Suicide can be preventable. By listening, talking, and acting, you could save a life.
Do not be afraid to talk to your friends
Listen to their feelings. Make sure they know how important they are to you. But it is important not to think you can keep them from hurting themselves on your own. Preventing suicide will require help from adults and is never your responsibility alone.
Don’t keep this secret
Never keep secret a friend’s suicidal plans or thoughts. You cannot promise that you will not tell someone; helping your friend requires the help of an adult. Talk to your parent, your friend’s parent, your school’s psychologist or counselor — any trusted adult. Don’t wait. Don’t be afraid that adults will not believe you or take you seriously. If you feel like they don’t believe you, keep talking until they listen. Even if you are not sure your friend is suicidal, talk to someone. It is always important to play it safe.
If your child expresses thoughts of wanting to harm themselves or others, call 9-1-1 or visit the nearest Emergency Department.
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Find a mental health provider
Check your insurance website or the back of your insurance card.
Explore Psychology Today’s “Find a Therapist” tool.
Call CalOptima Behavioral Health (Orange County, CA).